Have you ever attended a seminar or read a book that had you so pumped up afterward that you KNEW you could take on the world and win? You put the book down or you leave the convention center with high hopes of changing the world, and changing your life. But, then what? Lots of ideas scribbled on a napkin somewhere get lost and forgotten. Motivation and excitement begin to fade away. Sometimes the enthusiasm lasts a week or so, and for some, maybe only a few hours. Then it’s back to the same old, same old.
If you’ve experienced this, you’re not alone. In fact MOST people are in the same boat. They show up, which is a HUGE and GREAT first step, and the intentions are good, but then nothing seems to happen when they get home and back to real life. This is no reflection on the quality of the material they were presented. In fact, it’s not even a reflection of anyone that experiences it. Well, I take that back. Because, actually, it is just that. A reflection of what’s going on in their lives. A reflection of bad habits and negative patterns that may have been developing since early childhood.
Effective habits are the missing ingredient in a lot of our lives. And while many books and self-help programs share lot of information and practical help, without DAILY implementation through habits, it’s all, quite literally, useless. Short bursts of motivation with lack of action actually does more harm than good. Why? Because after we educate ourselves through books, classes, seminars, etc, we all then know what we SHOULD be doing (or in some cases, SHOULD’NT be doing), and every time you don’t do something you know you should, that tiny little internal judge starts eating away at your self-confidence. And, as your self-confidence deterioriates, so does your quality of life; You take less chances, you start caring less about yourself, eating unhealthy, you’re less ambitious, you start seeking escape in activities that don’t support your goals, etc. Before you know it, life has passed you by and all you have is a plate full of regrets about the things you’ve never done.
The good news is, that this cycle can be stopped in it’s tracks, almost immediately. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not easy, by any means, breaking a bad habit and replacing it with a good one, takes diligence and discipline. But, it can be done with only tiny bits of effort from you, spread over longer periods of time. The beautiful thing about habits, is that they are formed more over consistency than mass. So, even the smallest step or action, done repeatedly, will get you where you want to be.
Let’s look at an example: Let’s say you want to get fit, but you despise the gym, work two jobs and have three kids, and spouse that works hard too. It’s hard to imagine finding the time or the energy to make a work out routine even possible. The trouble is, we get too much information from media and commercial interests with the “all or nothing” mentality (because that’s what is sexy and sells). You get trainers and coaches that want your ass in a gym at 5:30am for an hour and a half 5 days a week, and that is overwhelming. Possible? Of course, everything is possible. Realistic for someone in this situation? No. At least, not yet.
First, you’ve got to train your mind that you CAN do it. Start small. That’s the key!! Don’t scare yourself out of the possibility. Most people go out and buy a gym membership, make it for a week maybe of super hard workouts and burn out before anything good comes of it. In addition to not reaching their goal, they further deteriorate their confidence levels. Instead of continuing this cycle, start super small…tiny. Start with one push up in the morning. Roll out of bed and do one push up. Victory! And do one push up intil you’re ready to do two. And then keep adding until you boost your strength and confidence.
Small activity, no matter what it is, done consistently over a period of time yields huge results. Grasp this now and change your life. Whatever your “push-up” is in life, do it EVERY day and you WILL achieve your goal.