We all have that friend, lover, work associate, or family member that is just clueless when it comes to the impact they have on the world around them. I call it their emotional wake. They just seem to barrel through life, saying whatever pops into their mind, making plans and breaking plans, and either over-sharing, or significantly under-sharing to the point of emotional withdrawal. They’ll rarely admit to any of this, and it’s not because they’re lying. They’re literally clueless.
I make it a habit to show compassion in all situations. That’s what I strive for anyway, but I’m not batting perfect in this department either. Long lines, poor service, freeway douchebaggerie, and blatant disrespect can still push my buttons. I still have a lot of work to do too. Still, I aim to look at all situations and people with compassion because I truly believe that everyone is doing the best they can with what they’ve got.
Still, doing the best you can with what you’ve got is a reason, and NOT an excuse. At some point, we all have to take responsibility for our lives, and own the emotional wake we leave behind. At some point, we have to realize that our off-the-cuff remarks can be devastating to those that hear them. At some point, we must understand that our actions and behaviors either bring what or who we want closer, or it drives them away.
But, what if they never get it? When does compassion become foolishness? When do we let go, or do we at all?