Thinking Bigger

if your dreams don't scare you, they're not big enough

I love reading and learning. Right now, as part of my Auto-University, I am listening to Grant Cardone’s, “The 10X Rule,” and although I thought his style was going to be too far away from mine, I am actually liking this book a lot. It’s a no-nonsense, action-oriented book about the practical application of “fluffy” things like, living in abundance and the Law of Attraction. There have been a few key take-aways, and living and dreaming bigger is one of them for me.

The first actionable step became obvious to me yesterday. Earlier this year, I pledged to give $1,000,000 away to causes that touch, move, and inspire me before I die. To me, that was a HUGE goal, and I got excited about it. But then, I realized I still wasn’t thinking big enough. More importantly, this goal was not in alignment with my other big-picture goals, especially my ultimate net worth goal.

So, here it is. My goal is to have a networth of $40,000,000, By age 50. And, since my contribution is effectively a tithe (10%), I am re-upping my charitable giving goal to $4,000,000 or more by age 50. I was afraid having a goal that was too big, and outside my normal thinking ($4 million bucks is a lot!), I would lose interest or feel it was impossible. Instead, I am fired up even more so than I was to give a million away. My chosen organization is Release the Fear, because of all the work they do helping at-risk and under-priveledged youth overcome the effects of violence and poverty (www.ReleaseTheFear.org).  I think four million dollars will go a long way to assist their programming and expansion.

What about you? Do you have a cause that inspires you to give?

Book the Cruise of Your Dreams, and Help Kids Live the Life of Theirs

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One of the BIG habits I have renewed my energy towards is giving. The reason you hear about the power of giving all the time is, it works. I have a goal of giving $1,000,000 in cash away to organizations that touch, move, and inspire me. To get things started, I have partnered with a long time favorite program of mine, Release the Fear, based in Phoenix.

Using the creative process, artist Robert Miley and his team of incredible facilitators, help under priveledged youth overcome the effects of violence and poverty. Through dynamic workshops, both on school campuses, and in local businesses, Release the Fear teaches alternatives and whole brain thinking techniques to help youth rise above their current situations. This is powerful stuff and translates to IMMEDIATE results in the local community through reduced crime and recidivism in the prison system. For more information about Release the Fear, please visit www.ReleaseTheFear.org

Book a Cruise & Help

One of the many hats I wear is that of a cruise/travel agent for Expedia CruiseShipCenters in North Scottsdale. To help kick off this enormous endeavor of donating a million in cash before I die, I’m donating 100% of my commisssions for ALL online bookings made at www.SorokaTravel.com . And, it’s not just cruises! Anything thing commissionable that you book there will reap the benefits of this. Expedia sells nearly everything! Hotels, airfare (not ususally commissionable), shore excursions, adventures, rental cars, helicopter rides, and more! All you have to do is book online at www.SorokaTravel.com. You get all the power and pricing of Expedia, so there are no additional fees to use the site. And, if you’d rather have the one on one services of a travel agent (me), I can certainly help and will still donate a signifigant portion of my commission to Release the Fear.

Thank you and happy traveling!

 

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Turn Your Car Into College

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What if I told you that you could could get the equivalent of a college education simply by turning your radio off in your car each day, and instead listening to an audio-book?

The average American spends 50 minutes commuting back and forth to work 5 days a week, 50 weeks per year.  That’s 12,500 hours per year in your car or on public transportation! If each book took 8 hours to listen to, you’d have heard nearly 1600 books a year!

I know many people struggle with the idea of giving up their music, and I totally understand. I was the same way too. Music pumped me up and got me ready for the day. For those people, relax. Music and total quiet time have their place as well. This isn’t an all or nothing plan. You don’t HAVE to listen to books the entire 12,500 hours of your annual commute time. Imagine what could happen if you simply switched from music to books for even half that time.

For me, I’m on the road a LOT. I average 3,000 miles a MONTH as a mobile notary, travel agent, and serial entrepreneur (plus avid road tripper). I’ve always been a reader anyway, and for many reasons, I totally resisted audio-books. I enjoyed music to stimulate my senses, and my driving time was almost like meditation. I actually enjoyed the quite and did some of my best thinking behind the wheel. But still, after reading over and over again about the benefits of turning my car-time into an Auto-University, I did it. And, I’ll tell you what, I’ll never go back!

Since starting Car-niversity in February, I have listened to 8 books (I choose the longer, more expensive books on audible and use my credit for maximum value). These books have been powerful and have literally altered the course and focus of my life. If I dodn’t listen to them in the car, there is a very good chance I would not have ever had the chance to read them. I already have well over 100 books on my list “to read” and with all the new material being written, many of these “classics” would have been pushed to the bottom because of their length and depth of material.

Here’s my challenge to you; Try out this Auto-University concept for 30 days. Choose a non-fiction book about something you’d like to work on in your life-money, love, networking, growing a business, starting a business, writing a blog or book, social media marketing, learning a language, traveling, working out-whatever! Just try it for a month and see what happens. I guarantee you’ll notice a difference in how you feel about yourself, your life, and the people you share it with.

Need some ideas on books to listen to? Here’s a few that I have read and want to read:

Listened:

The Success Principles by Jack Canfield– I’ve been resisting Jack Canfield my whole life because I thought he was too cheesy. This book has proved me wrong and has sparked a whole Canfield kick. This guy knows his stuff!

The Fred Factor by Mark Sanborn– Very cool philosophy of service sparked by the story of a Denver postman named, Fred. Great story with tips on going above and beyond for your customers, employees, and employers, regardless of the job you have.

Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazi– Incredible networking tips!

Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman– This should be a required read for junior high. It’s all about knowing yourself and the impact you have on others, even when you think you’re not impacting others.

Want to Listen:

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

The 10X Rule

Reclaim Your Brain

The Go-Giver

Intentional Living

The Compound Effect

You are a Badass

 

When Does Compassion Turn to Foolishness?

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We all have that friend, lover, work associate, or family member that is just clueless when it comes to the impact they have on the world around them. I call it their emotional wake. They just seem to barrel through life, saying whatever pops into their mind, making plans and breaking plans, and either over-sharing, or significantly under-sharing to the point of emotional withdrawal. They’ll rarely admit to any of this, and it’s not because they’re lying. They’re literally clueless.

I make it a habit to show compassion in all situations. That’s what I strive for anyway, but I’m not batting perfect in this department either. Long lines, poor service, freeway douchebaggerie, and blatant disrespect can still push my buttons. I still have a lot of work to do too. Still, I aim to look at all situations and people with compassion because I truly believe that everyone is doing the best they can with what they’ve got.

Still, doing the best you can with what you’ve got is a reason, and NOT an excuse. At some point, we all have to take responsibility for our lives, and own the emotional wake we leave behind. At some point, we have to realize that our off-the-cuff remarks can be devastating to those that hear them. At some point, we must understand that our actions and behaviors either bring what or who we want closer, or it drives them away.

But, what if they never get it? When does compassion become foolishness? When do we let go, or do we at all?

The Nerd with the Journal

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Yeah, I’m that guy. Everywhere I go, I have my own “Little Black Book” with me.  Only for me, instead of being full of hot dating conquests and prospects, mine is full of ideas, dreams, whacky inventions, random thoughts, journal entries, and song lyrics. Most people are in awe that I still insist on using real paper and pen to scribe my entries. In the day of the smart phone, I guess I can see why. But for me, hand writing my thoughts and ideas is empowering to me, and I LOVE going through my old idea books. In nearly every one of them, I can trace the origins of one of my businesses, usually to just a quick random note.  Then, as we progress through the journal, the idea grows, formulates, and almost comes to life on paper as it becomes a full fledged business. I love that. That’s my calling. I am an entrepreneur. Well, not even just an entrepreneur. I am a serial entrepreneur, finding joy and passion launching new businesses for myself, and for others. And without my journals and idea books, none of it would work. Every day, I write. No matter what it’s about, I write. Journal, diary, business idea, USP idea for someone else-no matter what-I write.

Ideas come and go, and they say some of the best ideas in history have been lost to poor memory. We always think we’ll remember the great ideas from the shower, the drive, or even the vodka induced brainstorming at the neighborhood bar, but research has proven we won’t. If you don’t somehow write or save an idea within 20 seconds, in all likelyhood, you’ll lose it forever. It’s off to the next person in line of collective consciousness.

For 2016, I’m even upping the ante a bit. My journaling goal is to fill one Moleskine (my favorite) notebook every single month. So far, being April 8, I have filled one and a half since January. As a few more of these ventures take off, and I take on more clients, I see this increasing dramatically to help me hit goal. What I’m loving about this, is how easy it is to buy a journal now. I used to spend an hour at the bookstore, touching every single notebook. Asking the clerk to open them (I have to touch the pages), flipping through them…smelling them (Don’t judge). I think my brain way over analyzed it because that journal was going to be with me for the next year and it’s very important. The right look and feel of a journal can change everything for me. But now that I have a goal of filling up a journal a month, well, the commitment is much shorter. So, if by some freak accident, Moleskine lets me down one month, I can just wait it out for 30 days and start a new one. By the way…I can’t wait to start my new one (and the one after that)!

 

 

The Daily Guru

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“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” For years, I had resisted this insight from Jim Rohn. I was quite sure I’d be different-the exception to the rule. If there was one piece of advice I would give the 18 year old version of myself (besides invest EVERYTHING) it would be to realize that no one is the exception. Not for this, not for anything. Eventually, you get your turn.

 

I struggled with how to work with this philosophy without alienating people that are important to me, and while also balancing the intricacies of my introverted personality. Here’s what I came up with, and it seems to be working.

First, there’s no rule that says the five people you spend the most time with have to be live and in person.  I was clear on the areas in sales, networking, business development, spiritual growth, fitness, and health I wanted to grow in, so I researched “gurus” I resonated with in all categories.

Second, since we’re using the law of averages, why not increase our odds? Instead of using just five people, I actually use between 7 & 14 of these gurus in my daily practice.

Every day, especially the morning, I listen to a YouTube video or recorded teleconference with my designated “Daily Guru.” I do that 7 days a week. Remember, good habits don’t get weekends! I also schedule a guru for the afternoon or evening, which is a little harder to stay with, simply because the work day and happy hour happens. But, that’s what I strive for, anyway. Aim for the stars, and you might just hit the moon. And, it’s totally okay to repeat the same guru on some days. I find that I am constantly switching mine out, depending on what I have going on in my life. If I am speaking in public and need some pointers, I research that. If I’m having relationship issues, I look into that. Whatever it is, someone out there has information to help.

So, now, every week, I am bombarded with relevant and effective information and strategies that help me in my life NOW. Sometimes I walk away with a page full of notes, and sometimes I walk away with just one word that changes everything. And to me, that makes it all worth while.

Good Habits Don't Get Weekends Off

Sweating to the Options

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I found it bizarre, recently, when I published my goal of taking 100 hikes by August 1 and the instant I did so, I lost total interest in hiking. I am pretty introspective, and I’ve been exploring what that may be all about, and I came up with all kinds of answers, but my incredible Life Coach, Linda Frazee, lit the path to the right answer. Options. That’s all it came down to.

As a number 7 on the Enneagram, I appreciate options. And, as it turns out, I don’t like to take orders from anyone, including myself, even if it’s self-destructive. I suppose, on some level, I already knew I was resistant to taking orders, but as I set goals for myself all the time, this abrupt halt in activity for something that I loved to do anyway, caught me by surprise. To “fix” it, Linda suggested I open it up to more options. It’s not so much about the hike as it is about staying active, healthy, and connecting with nature. There are a lot of ways to do that, so I just had to adjust the goal to include other activities as well. That seemed too simple, but has proved to be accurate.

Just being aware of my resistance played a key role in advancing, of course. And then, by simply telling myself I was free to do other activities too, my mindset completely changed. In fact, I’m on my way to my first hike in months with my good friend, Scott. My attitude has completely shifted back to joy around hiking, and I’m looking forward to it again. I’ve still kept the goal of 100 hikes by August 1, and I’ve even added a new goal of 100 push-ups per day in hopes I can get back into decent shape before I hit the gym again. Sounds a little ridiculous to have to get into shape before I feel good about going to the gym again. I feel like my grandmother who used to clean up before the maid would come.

What I’ve learned is to never just quit, even if you stop for a bit. Introspect and learn from what is going on inside you, and do that without judgement or harsh criticism. And, don’t be afraid to ask for help or guidance from a trusted source.